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When Children Die–Parents Grieve Relentlessly

Psychologist Dr. Carol Francis discusses the phases of parents’ grieving and “recovering” from the death of their child on Dr. Carol Francis Talk Radio Show Make Life Happen on June 19 at 5:00PM. The show will be podcasted thereafter through BlogTalkRadio.com/dr-carol-francis.

Dr. Carol Francis, Psychologist, explores parents’ pain when a child dies due to an accident, illness, natural disaster, suicide or war. Any cause of a child’s death is devastating. Parents become riddled with grief and a deep unbelieveable sadness. When a child dies, huge portions of a loving-parent’s will to live dies too. Deep, serious clinical depression accompanies such bereavement.

“Guilt and the “if only I had’s” or “I should have . . .” plague the daily tortured parental thoughts. Being responsible for the daily care for young children conditions conscientious parents to remain feeling responsible for a child’s life. When a child dies, those feelings of responsibility continue as nagging self-doubts,” explains Dr. Carol Francis.

Nightmares and horrific imaginings about a child’s painful death or tortures or evils suffered fill in the parent’s gap of knowledge as well.

Years and years pass and still the sting of missing a child’s anniversary events haunts parents. “She would have been going to the prom too.” “He would have gotten his driver’s license this year.” Seeing other families, parents and children frolic in the daily routines is a daily painful reminder that those family happy times are very far away. These are some pangs associated to missing out on a child’s growth steps.

During this program,Dr. Carol Francis discusses recovering from such sad and yet common events with mother and author, Pamela Yount. Pamela Yount wrote how she evolved out of the pain of losing her son to AIDS in her book Wismatic. Pamela Yount explains how she found ways to resurrect her sense of purpose and develop an alternate point of view about her son’s death.

Courtney Walker, a country western singer and composer, shares in song the inevitability of having to deal with grief in life. His song, The Weaver, both captures the sadness and bewilderment of such losses and proposes a spiritual perspective on recovering from these pangs. Many parents around the world actually experience more relief from some type of spiritual experience or belief associated their child’s dying process which is what Courtney Walker’s song expresses.

Sexual Abuse and Stockholm Syndrome Manifest with Sandusky

“Coach” Jerry Sandusky’s misuse of his relationship as coach or a socially powerful man who could make or break these children’s young playing “careers,” self-esteem or sense of being “accepted” clearly illustrates the human vulnerability to remaining attached and even loyal to one’s abuser.   Teresa Joyce’s book “There’s A Fine Line” published by Chipmunka Publishing helps all readers feel the disturbing glue of these twisted relationships.   The abuser becomes essential to the victims perceived survival or worth.  Listen to my radio interview with Teresa Joyce at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dr-carol-francis/2012/04/16/sexual-abuse-exposed-interview-w-author-teresa-jones or on my YouTube.com/drcarolfrancis at http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4ECD9E3D9DF369E4.